Today I want to talk to you about having a positive mindset; how this can impact you and what a difference it can make in your life.
Now, I have to say, I’ve always been one of those people who thought, you know… it’s a bit wishy washy.
I’ve never really quite got to grips with it. It’s one of those things I give a go and tell myself that this is going to be great but then the doubt floods back in.
What's a bit of social anxiety among friends...?
“Methods of Persuasion” has really got me thinking.
One of the things Nick Kolenda talks about is the importance of your mindset when approaching events and activities. This struck me in terms of things like networking, social events etc.
I can find these events very, very difficult as I’m actually (surprisingly) introverted. I find myself thinking “people aren’t going to talk to me” or “what am I going to say? How am I going to approach this?”
Listening to this book has clarified my mindset.
One of the great examples he give is this: if you were about to meet somebody called Emily and I told you that Emily was very cold, negative and unfriendly then that bears a relation to how you approach your meeting with Emily and your impression of her afterwards.
If, on the other hand, you’re told that she’s very positive, friendly and sociable how you then interact and behave with her will again be different. Your mindset going into that meeting is going to affect the way that she behaves because of the way that you’re behaving without even knowing it.
Now, this might seem really, really obvious, but for me, that was one of those examples that completely hit the spot.
We can all spend so much time worrying about what people think or what we’re going to say that it all builds up; probably taking over completely and inevitably affecting how we interact with and react to others.
If you enter a situation with confidence and positivity, then that is the impression you’ll give and most probably, what you’ll see reflected back.
So what I’ve taken from this is the importance of changing my mindset, particularly at social events.
For the networking events and other things that are coming up, I am going to go in there with a positive, confident mindset and remind myself that I’m going to meet great people that I want to talk to, that they’ll be great conversations and it’s going to be very valuable. Positive.
I will do some more videos in the future to cover how this actually changes things for me.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.
Is this something that you already follow and try to apply in your life? Are you one of these people who have this positive mindset, going into situations with the right thoughts? Or are you generally more worried and can see how that might impact how others behave and react to you?
Hopefully I will see you at one of these networking events very soon – in a very positive mindset.